The subtle art of not giving a fork
Imagine you have a limited amount of forks that resets each day, let’s say four for assonance purposes. You have four forks and you can give them away, or not, throughout the day. If you run out of forks you turn into a giant tool and you shall be known as such, so you want to keep your forks together as much as you can.
My fork theory is freely and loosely inspired by the Spoon Theory in sociology.
The real Spoon Theory is used to explain the reduced amount of mental and physical energy available for activities of living and productive tasks that may result from disability or chronic illness.
Getting out of bed can be a spoon for someone. That’s one less spoon available on that day.
Almost the same can be said for forks.
Giving a fork implies you are somehow emotionally involved in something. When you give a fork, you surrender to your instincts and react to that thing.
Sounds familiar yet?
So, you wake up every day with four forks. If something triggers you within the first hour of you waking up and you decide to give a fork, that’s one less fork for the day.
Choose your forks carefully!
That’s the philosophy I am embracing in 2020.
We all know that someone who is always complaining. At this point, the reason for the complaint is not even relevant anymore. Weather? Triggered. Random stranger? Triggered. Facebook acquaintance’s opinion? Triggered. Waiting? Triggered.
Personally, I do not want to be a giant tool because I give too many forks about too many things.
This doesn’t mean that I am becoming a mindless ‘Live Love Laugh’ kind of person. No positivity affirmations for me, I don’t have time for that. I am on a tight schedule and I have a limited amount of forks to give.
2020 Barbs means business.
If you want to meditate and visualize your aura in the middle of the street, you do you. I will walk around you, don’t mind me.
If your goal in life is to celebrate your 21st birthday by throwing a Handmaid’s Tale themed party, go ahead, you’re young and it’s your money. You’ll live long enough to judge if that was a good idea or not.
I am choosing not to let too many things draw a fork out of me.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that I don’t notice or are unaffected by all things. The mere fact that I am listing examples means I have an understanding of what vibes with me, and what doesn’t.
Just because something doesn’t fit my personal idea of smooth living, doesn’t necessarily imply I am going to rant about it or feel personally attacked. I can hold conversations about all sort of topics, offer my point of view and accept yours.
All this while holding onto my forks.
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My fork theory is freely and loosely inspired by the Spoon Theory in sociology.
The real Spoon Theory is used to explain the reduced amount of mental and physical energy available for activities of living and productive tasks that may result from disability or chronic illness.
Getting out of bed can be a spoon for someone. That’s one less spoon available on that day.
Almost the same can be said for forks.
Giving a fork implies you are somehow emotionally involved in something. When you give a fork, you surrender to your instincts and react to that thing.
Sounds familiar yet?
So, you wake up every day with four forks. If something triggers you within the first hour of you waking up and you decide to give a fork, that’s one less fork for the day.
Choose your forks carefully!
That’s the philosophy I am embracing in 2020.
We all know that someone who is always complaining. At this point, the reason for the complaint is not even relevant anymore. Weather? Triggered. Random stranger? Triggered. Facebook acquaintance’s opinion? Triggered. Waiting? Triggered.
Personally, I do not want to be a giant tool because I give too many forks about too many things.
This doesn’t mean that I am becoming a mindless ‘Live Love Laugh’ kind of person. No positivity affirmations for me, I don’t have time for that. I am on a tight schedule and I have a limited amount of forks to give.
2020 Barbs means business.
If you want to meditate and visualize your aura in the middle of the street, you do you. I will walk around you, don’t mind me.
If your goal in life is to celebrate your 21st birthday by throwing a Handmaid’s Tale themed party, go ahead, you’re young and it’s your money. You’ll live long enough to judge if that was a good idea or not.
I am choosing not to let too many things draw a fork out of me.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that I don’t notice or are unaffected by all things. The mere fact that I am listing examples means I have an understanding of what vibes with me, and what doesn’t.
Just because something doesn’t fit my personal idea of smooth living, doesn’t necessarily imply I am going to rant about it or feel personally attacked. I can hold conversations about all sort of topics, offer my point of view and accept yours.
All this while holding onto my forks.
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